You’re not attracted to that person. You never will be. Nevertheless you happily marry and raise a family.

At the time you don’t even question it. Attraction is far, far down the list of what you and your family are looking for in a life partner. Connections, health, security, youth – the list runs A-Z, or should I say B-Z, as attraction isn’t a factor.

Fifteen years and three children later you wake up one day next to your wife in the suburbs of Western Sydney and you see your life for a second through the eyes of your Aussie neighbours.

You know they think it strange, but with some on their second and even third marriages – miserable, still seeking something elusive and impoverished by the crusade – it is them you think are strange.

You’re thankful, grateful and content that a community’s combined wisdom suggested Sophia for your marriage.